Monday, December 21, 2009
Tuesday, November 10, 2009
Thursday, October 29, 2009
Monday, September 28, 2009
Tuesday, September 15, 2009
Tuesday, August 25, 2009
Saturday, August 8, 2009
Wednesday, August 5, 2009
We got the call a few days ago. My sister's ex is moving out of their apartment in (beautiful) Hemet on the 15th of August and my sister will be back into the Burroughs' Manor as soon as she can. She has been here for the past month and a half or so and I can’t begin to tell you how difficult life is with her here. Don’t get me wrong, I love my sister and I wish her the best, but she brings something to the table that I can’t explain. She has cerebral palsy, O.C.D. (obsessive compulsive disorder), and the demeanor of a teenager in some aspects. I see the effects this has mainly on my Mom. She now has to deal with Dad and all that comes with a special needs 33/16 year old. It is just unnecessary emotions and stress that is already there and adds on top of the pressure of a family that is dealing with a father that is fighting cancer. When she is here you can literally feel the blood-pressure, and stress level climb...I guess the good thing coming out of this is that it is really forcing Jen and I to save so we can buy a home.
I think it is time to step up the game and help Mom out with Dad more.
I think it is time to step up the game and help Mom out with Dad more.
Saturday, July 18, 2009
Uh? You still live with the guy? "Yes."
Uh? You still sleep in the same bed? "Yes."
Uh? Do you guys still...ya know? "No. Were just good friends. Besides he has another girlfriend."
I could only imagine my poor mothers heart palpitating out of control and her reaching for her nitro pills to stop the sharp pains in her chest and uncontrollable sweating.
Apparently the new girlfriend wants to invite my sister out with her and my sisters ex to "...get to know each other so that nothing is weird." Yeeeahhh. My wife then suggested to me that maybe my sister is into kinky shit, which made me throw up.
In another story related to my sister, I came home to hear my mother telling my sister, "Well, that is your problem. I will not give you money, drive you to go get them, or support this in anyway. If you want them you need to find a way to get them."
My wife being addicted to the show "Intervention", I thought my sister was on crack or something and was about to blow a gasket. "What the hell is going on?" I asked.
"She wants to go get cigarette's! She smokes, I guess." my mother's reply.
"Uh...what?" I said, intelligently, reaching for my nitro pills.
That's it. I quit.
Tuesday, June 9, 2009
Monday, May 25, 2009
Thursday, May 21, 2009
Married, Day 47: I'm almost comfortable with the ring on my finger, I like it, it makes me feel like I'm worth more, like I have some reason to be here on this Earth. Not that I didn't before but now there is someone that relies on me to be there. I'm the head of my own family, all be it a small one, but none the less, my family.
UPDATE: My dad is in the hospital again. The last few weeks have been tough for the guy. The chemo is starting to finally kick in and as a result his white blood cell (the ones that fight infection) count is very low. He is not eating that much but seems to be out of pain for the most part. Everyone that comes in contact must wash their hands before coming in the house, and just generally stay clear of the guy. He went into the hospital because he was low in the blood department too. Apparently this chemo somehow helps somewhere, but it is now affecting the bone marrow, and the bone marrow is what makes blood. He went in Tuesday for two bags of the red stuff and ended up getting just under four over two days. Mom reports back that he is looking a lot better just after the blood went in.
John Kumpart gets married!!: We all met in South Dakota to witness the marriage of two of the greatest people I know. We did Deadwood, Rushmore, and danced the night away. Good times, King!
* Side note: Don't anyone ever ask me to do a Best Man speech ever again...fucking horrible. I've known the guy for 16 years and I spoke about him like I sold a used car to his uncle 7 years ago. Sorry, man. I love you.
I'm having a garage sale this weekend. Should be good times. If you want to sell something, get your stuff and bring it. Shop opens at 8am Saturday.
Monday, March 30, 2009
This is the woman I love, and why. (see, got a little choked up right there.)
...and that's why I love you, Beautiful. Thank you for everything that you do for me. I can't wait to spend the rest of my life with you.
Sunday, March 15, 2009
When it rains it pours. So now I have to do one of two things, really concentrate on getting my application into the Los Angeles County Probation Department, or wait and see where the hell I will be working next year. Chances are that I will loose my awesome "3 months on, 1 month off" gig if I remain with the district and have to go back to a traditional summers off schedule, with a possibility of going to a school where I will have to completely rebuild the discipline department from the ground up.
The good news of course is that I still have a job no matter what. Maybe I'm complaining too much. I just don't want to be the new guy again.
Thursday, March 12, 2009
Speaking of home...
I'm getting married in 23 days. 3 WEEKS! I will be on a plane for Europe in 25 days and be gone for two weeks. My new bride and I will not be moving into a new house or to our old apartment that we have grown to (somewhat) love, we are in fact moving back into my parents house.
With dad out of commission, and only my 65 year old mother there to take care of him, we thought for the meantime it would be good for everyone if we were there to have some in house support. There is a pool to take care of, some gardening, cleaning and cooking, help with the everyday things, plus we can save a little cash in the bank.
Sunday, March 8, 2009
Multiple Myeloma is the name of the beast, and it is taking my father from me. I have watched over the last 4 months my dad become ill, lose weight, and I believe that he has become addicted to the massive amounts of pain killers he has to take just to get through the day. Is only true blissful pain free time is when he is asleep in which he does almost 20 plus hours per day now.
When we talk he has this way about him that if he died today he would miss us all but he knows that it would end the pain he is in. It’s weird, he says that he is not going anywhere for a long time because he needs to see me get married, get to know his new daughter in law, and play with his grandchildren, he says these things but I can see it in his eyes that he is truly indifferent...I don't blame him.
We are currently looking into a few places for treatment, those being U.S.C. and U.C.L.A. Medical Centers and the Mayo Clinic. If anyone has heard of another center please let me know.
I wanted to write this out for a few reasons; one is because I just need to let everyone know what is going on. The second is to help myself. I know I have not been myself lately and for that I truly apologize. For some reason I still keep my feelings all bottled up inside and let them run their course in me. It is not easy to sit back and watch my dad in pain to the point that he wishes he was not here with us anymore, but maybe if I write these things out and share them it will ease my pain somewhat…I do feel better already just typing out these few paragraphs.
The third reason is I wanted to bring the struggle of fighting this disease to my friends, not necessarily shoving it to you, but making you aware of it. Cancer has become personal to me. I no longer can sit on the sideline and tell myself that it is “their” problem anymore. My dad has cancer. If you would like to join the fight here is a place to start, (Livestrong) it only cost $10, give them out to your friends and you will not only help my dad but the millions of others that have cancer as well.
Monday, February 16, 2009
Sunday: We were invited to take a trip down Mexico way with some friends to a little village by the sea called Puerto Nuevo (about an hour or so south of Tijuana) where the village money maker is their right out of the water lobster. Holy mother of god…I have never had a dinner like this before in my life. Fresh lobster tails for $19.99 each. We ordered 5, and along with the big bowl of rice and beans, fresh salsa, tortillas, and the 6 beers the total bill came to $116.00! You can’t beat that anywhere in the states, I dare you to try.
I got home and checked the email only to discover that I had three contacts about the Focus. I called the first guy only to find out that he had just bought a car and was driving home in it. What kind of guy emails someone about buying a car at 2pm and is driving home in a completely different one buy 7pm? He shopped for a car, found mine, emailed me about it, decided I was taking too long to get back to him, shopped for another car, talked to that guy, got the money, met him, bought the car, did the paper work, and was driving home in 5 hours? Guess I need to speed things up a bit.
Good news is I got a hold of the guy in the second email. He was from Fresno and just left the greater L.A. area to go back home. We made a deal to meet half way on Monday to do some business.
Monday: I had the day off for Presidents day A.K.A “Deal Day”. Jenn gets into the Focus; I get into the Jeep and hit the road for Bakersfield and then we find out The Grapevine is closed. The guy who is buying the car gives me a call and we decide to meet in Tehachapi instead. As we are leaving Long Beach it is pouring rain and it continued up until we got to Tehachapi, then it started to sleet and snow. I met Kevin in a Home Depot parking lot, where all was good, he wanted to buy the car and I wanted to sell it to him. We drove over to the local Tehachapi smog shop (lovely this time of year) and made good on the deal. $2,350 cash…American. I know, I know, I said I was selling for $3,000 but I really needed to unload the car and this was the first guy that said “I have the cash.”
Driving home, we hit every road condition you could think of…rain, sleet, snow, and then hail, then crazily enough, dry road after passing the Getty. Here is one picture I took:
So, here is to a great but non-restful weekend. I have a 4 day week to look forward to before this next one.
Saturday, February 14, 2009
Wednesday, January 28, 2009
I went to Earl Scheib to get an estimate, $326 to paint the hood, grill, and fender “stone white” again to match what is on there now…
Or I can get the Jeep completely redone in the color I really wanted in the first place, gunmetal gray…
Of course this color will cost $490, without painting the inside. If you’re wondering what I will be doing with that, I will be gutting the inside, carpet and everything, and using a roll on bed liner to seal the tub and make it easy clean up ready, reinstalling just the seats and middle console.
Your answer to what I should do…
Tuesday, January 20, 2009
I attached the fender flair, side markers, support bars that come from the fire wall to the grill, did an oil change, and added new coolant to the system just before starting the girl up again after three months. I turned the key and...Sweetness. She fired up like nothing happened.
After driving it around the block a few times to get the juices flowing again and to test the steering to see if it was damaged (luckily it was not), I checked the belts, hoses, all the wiring. I attached the hood back on the hinges and then ran into the only snag in the rebuild. The hood won’t go down all the way. It is hitting the top of the radiator, so I need to check and see if it can be adjusted somehow. So close to getting the paint and completing Operation Jeepers Creepers!
Side Note: my cousin Ted that lives in Oklahoma had a soft top on his Jeep...one he used for only a few months before going the hard top route. He said the nearly new top is in the mail (I just had to pay for shipping!)!
Tuesday, January 6, 2009
Thursday, January 1, 2009
Happy New Years everyone! It was another great new year's party that I went to last night at "The King's" palace in west L.A. This coming year is a huge one for me. I'm getting married in 3 months, going on a two week honeymoon to Europe (The U.K., Ireland, and Scotland), hopefully get a new job, look in to buying a home, and possibly try to start a family. No one can say that I don't have a full plate. I'm really looking forward to getting married. It should be a hell of a party and for those of you that are invited; I can't wait to see you. For those who didn't get an invite…blame Jen. Her number is (949)..............................(just kidding Babe!)